ftr to all of the people writing on that post “but my boyfriend isn’t like that AT ALL he does respect me!”
if you’re a man, some of the criteria you’d use to determine who you’d want to date: is she attractive, is she smart, is she funny, do we get along well, do we share similar interests
if you’re a woman: does he seem nonviolent, does he treat me like i’m an equal, does he not seem to get off on degrading me/other women, will he do his share of the housework
women actually have to stop and consider questions like “how likely is it that this man is going to beat me up?” or “can i emotionally withstand his porn use?” and men don’t. the fact that you don’t think that’s problematic, and have to be GRATEFUL that your boyfriend is nice to you, shows how much we’ve internalized the idea that we exist to cater to men and their whims.
