i hate the neologism “partner” for “person i’m dating”. i have no intention of being a cowboy and nobody will ever be a cowboy to me.
speak for yourself, slim. some of us cowpoke are lookin’ for the right partner to call our own… [twangs acoustic guitar softly as i stare towards the twinkling night sky] don’t see many of them stars where you’re from, eh, city boy? nah. didn’t think so.
(Fuente: yuleslug, vía discosherpa)
6:00 pm • 29 Noviembre 2013 • 26 937 notas
bbb i’m about to send you the most random question i could think of since you said we could ask you ‘anything’
12:47 am • 29 Noviembre 2013 • 1 nota
I hate sex pozzies who use survivors as a gotcha defense for their gross kinks. Many survivors do try to recreate their abuse in order to normalize it, as a way of coping, but this is NOT a form of therapy. Speaking from my personal experience, it’s really more of a form of self harm. It’s a short term “solution”, attempting to re-live your abuse to try to change how you view it, how you feel about it, and give yourself a false sense of control over it. Many rape survivors will actually have consensual sex with the person who raped them, after the fact, in order to minimize their rape, try to convince themselves it wasn’t really rape, or try to change the memory & the emotions they associate with their rapist. Dealing with the fact you were sexually abused is extremely difficult, and I’m not here to shame survivors for the way they cope, I’ve done similar things in an attempt to cope as well, my hate is for the men who play the role of the rapist/abuser, the men who get turned on by imagining themselves raping & abusing women, and the people who defend these men, who encourage these men, who promote harmful things as a form of “therapy”. The overwhelming majority of people who use this defense of their kinks are not survivors, and don’t actually care about victims, they just want to use survivors to defend disgusting men.
9:11 pm • 28 Noviembre 2013 • 173 notas
I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
(also why guys cover their crotch when they get intimidated)
lmao @ those who say women are weaker than men. do we have to do this in a soccer match?
4:01 pm • 28 Noviembre 2013 • 187 745 notas