The court in Lund, southern Sweden, said it was clear the man had used violence to have sex, however it could not prove it was against the woman’s wishes.
This makes me so furious and the more I see these stories the more I hate kinksters. This is what mainstream acceptance of bdsm does to women, this is the obvious, inevitable outcome of legitimising violence as “sex.” These shit-for-brains, child-raping fuckers act like what they do occurs in a harmless little magical fantasy land, influencing nothing outside of it and being influenced by nothing outside of it. As if the abuse, torture, and rape of women and girls in kink ~accidentally~ coincides with the systematic abuse, torture, and rape of women and girls in patriarchy. As if kinksters magically shed their personal beliefs, opinions, and worldviews when they leave their kink scenes.
If I could get all the names of the judges and juries who make these decisions and review their politics, psych profiles, etc., I could probably bet my ass that some of them have their own dirty, secretive kinks. A male dom who ends up on a jury for a rape case is going to sympathise with the abusive rapist and agree that his victim totally deserved what she got. Does this kind of scenario ever occur to kinksters, like is it really so outrageous to these idiotic pieces of shit to think that men who get off to beating and raping women would lack empathy for rape and abuse victims? That these men would stick up for and defend their fellow men’s actions, no matter how vile?
Male doms tend to be pretty honest about how much they hate women, like most raging misogynists. I don’t know how many of you remember this, but there was a bdsm confessions blog (Idk if it’s still around) where male doms submitted really disgusting things like “I like to imagine humiliating the hot women at work by putting a collar around their necks and walking them like dogs.” Kinkshits would say, then and now, oh but it’s just a fantasy! They would have me believe that this doesn’t affect how he interacts with those women, even if he’s in a position of power over them. It’s just mindboggling how detached from reality they are, like…do they have any idea how gender socialisation, human brains, and society work?
Men are literally getting away with raping and killing women because of bdsm. A man can rape and torture a woman, leave all visible evidence of injury on the woman’s body, hell, probably even film the whole thing, and a court will find him not guilty. When will these kinky oxygen-thieving trash bags grasp what this means for women? It’s already bad enough with male-dominated rape culture as it is, it’s already hard enough for rape victims to convince police and the justice system that what happened to them was rape and not sex. Now rape victims have to convince people that they didn’t want to be tied up, beaten, choked, whipped, tortured, and penetrated in every orifice by a penis over the course of three hours. A society that condemned violence, that made absolutely no excuses for violence, would never stand for this.
It disgusts me to no end how these nasty fuckers take useful words and rhetoric from feminist theory and rape culture (without actually understanding either one) to defend their bullshit and then turn them against victims; preaching the importance of consent, safety, and respect, and then blaming victims for being abused: "It’s your fault, you chose to get yourself into that situation and you weren’t clear enough about your boundaries." None of them want to admit how many women have come forward with their experiences and talked about how the kink community protects abusers and rapists. They are sadistic, cruel, and devoid of morality to the very core. I hate kinksters so much, I hope all male doms die and burn in hell.